Anonymous asked: First off i would like to say, i would love to make you squirt ;3 and secondly i need advice, i am a new dom. But i care for my sub, and i don't wanna fall to desire, because i don't want to do anything to bad... so yeah any advice or guidelines? :)
Awww thanks :) I’m sure I’d enjoy every second!
Well first of all, what do you mean “fall to desire”? I assume that you’re worried you’ll get carried away and hurt her? If you care for her and you both communicate, that will not happen. You need to establish safewords in order to stay in communication about how she is doing. The stoplight system I think is best for those new to BDSM. It follows as such:
Green- everything is great, keep going.
Yellow- slow down, I’m reaching my limit, I may need a break soon
Red- Stop. Now. Immediately.
I would recommend taking things slow and work up to more complicated things. The more you play, the more you’ll feel comfortable about knowing her and how much she can take.
Also, talk to each other, establish soft limits, hard limits and discover what you both want and see your D/s relationship as. Communication is key.
I hope that helps! If not, please feel free to email me any time. :)